Can a husband make use of every part of his wife during sexual intercourse?

Can a husband make use of every part of his wife during sexual intercourse?

 A Brief Description of the Question: 

I have received a message from a friend that is it: 'is it true that, a husband is allowed to use any part of his wife's body opening during intercourse?' can u please answer this question? thanks..

The Answer: 

A rule like "Every part of a spouse is mubah (permissible) for the other spouse, it is not haram (forbidden) is not right; According to Ahl Sunnah, anal intercourse is not permissible. The mouth was not created for sexual intercourse but for other things; oral sex is contrary to the creation and the nature of man; people with uncorrupted nature hate it.

Islam is a religion that covers the whole life of man and evaluates every issue. Therefore, Islam did not ignore sexuality that has an important place in the life of man and sex education. It was arranged within certain criteria and within the limits of halal (licit), being enough for pleasure.

 Sahaba (the Companions of the Prophet) and their wives, who asked the Prophet about all of their problems, asked him about the issues regarding sexuality in person and learned from him.

As a matter of fact, one of the Companions wanted to have intercourse through her wife’s reproductive organ but he wanted to approach her from the back; his wife objected to it by putting forward the Judaist understanding that the child to be born out of such intercourse would be cross-eyed.

When our Prophet was informed about the issue, the verse stating, “husbands could approach wives as they wished so long as the intercourse was through the reproductive organ.”(1)

Our prophet explained that verse and stated that “intercourse could be carried out from behind, top, bottom, side and as the spouses wished as long as it was through reproductive organ.” (2) 

Islam prohibits a man to have sexual intercourse with his wife for the following cases:

1- Intercourse when the woman is in menstruation period and afterbirth period.

2- Anal intercourse. It is a great sin for a man to have anal intercourse with his wife.

The Prophet (pbuh) said:

"Allah does not have mercy on a man who carries out anal intercourse with his wife. (Ibn Majah Bayhaqi)

We understand that our religion allows sexual intercourse except those mentioned above and does not regard it haram as long as it is done through the reproductive organ. We can say that what the spouses do to prepare themselves for the sexual intercourse like licking, caressing, kissing touching various places with hands or lips are not regarded as haram. 

However, the fact that there is not a definite ban does not mean there are no recommendations: The following are the issues that are advised to be paid attention during sexual intercourse:

1- To have a covering over the bodies during the intercourse. (3)
2- Not to look at each other’s sexual organs. (4)
3- Speaking a little during the intercourse. (5)

It is better to act in accordance with those recommendations but all kinds of intercourse is permissible as long as it is through the reproductive organ. 

References:
1- Chapter al-Baqara, 223
2- See Elmalılı Hamdi Yazır and Ibni Kathir tafsirs: the interpretation of the verse 223 of al-Baqara.
3- Kanzu’l-ummal, 6/415
4- Ibn Majah, Nikah, 28
5- Fayzu’l- Qadir, 1/327

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SEX AND MEDITATION

SEX AND MEDITATION

When thinking of these two subjects together, we must determine exactly what we are thinking about.
The creative sexual drive is second in the lineup of instincts following the first instinct of the will to survive. The instincts can not be ignored, but can be channeled into other purposes
We need to separate instinct from emotion, in that we can add many emotions with our instincts. While emotions can be on many levels in our make-up, instincts are at our root-and any attempt to shunt these instincts, unlike our emotions, just causes the instincts to surface in other ways. Not dealing with our instincts causes instability of the self, often resulting in perversions of all kinds, especially where sex is involved
Perfect balance and harmony within ourselves, the universe, and all life is what we are bringing about through meditation and loving kindness. An almost impossible feat if we ourselves are functioning in an unbalanced atmosphere.
So how do monks and nuns living in Buddhist temples control themselves, we may ask. Well, they make their precepts, and go through a ritual and purification process, usually resulting in a loss of the sexual creative drive. They then transmute this creative energy, through prayer and meditation, into loving kindness, right thinking, and right actions.
To give an example, let me explain further:
Jea has in the past taken the full ordination of 227 precepts, and due to the practice of many years of meditation, can give observations, along with experienced details, of the effects of the initiation and life in remote temples, and what was experienced concerning the sexual drive. I can truthfully say, not once could I bring up any sexual desire, even when as a test trying to do so.
Now to get on with it- So, with living under these conditions outside of the social structure is one thing, but how are we to deal with this when we are living in the fast paced social arena of today.
"Have sex, stay happy, and enjoy a balanced and harmonious life." It is always better to have the same partner these experiences can be shared with. While maintaining a good balance and harmony, continue meditation, right thinking and actions, and enjoying your life. Soon you will have complete control over any emotions, and much of the creative sexual drive will have automatically been converted into a different and loving energy, for yourself and anything or anyone else in you life. With proper thinking and actions new channels open in which to use this creative energy
If the warm feeling of arousal rises while in meditation, great, acknowledge you are still alive and let it go, concentrating on good deeds and prayers for friends and loved ones. Once this method has been mastered, be prepared for the wonderful things that are changing in your life and eventually these sexual thoughts will not enter you meditation.
After several months of meditation, you will now have become accustomed to the wonderful experiences taking place around you. If desired, your sex life will have improved dramatically and you may have learned other ways to use the creative force, through the transmutation of energy, and the learned control and concentration of yourself and your controlled thinking.
If you still feel the need to become celibate (which I don't understand why, if you have a willing and committed partner), or you desire a different kind of life, or just want to be alone for a while, there should be no problem as we have learned not to shunt or deny the existence of this wonderful creative sexual instinct, but to transmute the energy to a different use. At this point, we will really know the joys and truth of life and understand the creative force and what may be accomplished with this new understanding. This is certain- you will know, anything you desire to know, if you continue this practice of balancing and bringing into harmony the second of the natural instincts.
We understand now, we are concerned with meaningless sexual intercourse, and the inability to determine any connection with the divine, when we waste ourselves in empty union with another. To Have sexual relations with another, where we cannot realize the influence of the divine spark, is like committing spiritual suicide. The same could be said with performing continuous sexual relief without a meaningful partner.
This creative sexual energy, we may have wanted to deny months ago, may well be the tremendous reservoir that keeps us healthy and happy the rest of our life. Understanding true sexual union and the benefits involved cannot be an understated wisdom.

SPECIAL NOTE:
While aware, that those who have become celibate for religious or spiritual reasons, and have done so voluntarily, this is an admirable and a good thing for many of us, but not all of us.
What about those of us that still live in the social fabric of today, and are given the opportunity along with the means to reproduce.... Unfortunately, in a few cases, some individuals living in a celibate environment, speak against sexual union of any kind. They have forgotten how they came into this earth, and they also misunderstand the sexual current, due to narrow, rigid thinking (of the individual).
In most religions, information is found relating to sex and can be translated many different ways. Most of the time, this information is vague and left to the individual to interpret for ones self.
We must remember, we live in a world of duality, and we have been given means and tools to procreate sexually (and responsibly). So, we could believe, we are supposed to approve of responsible sexual union.
IN the holy books, mention is also made of a woman for the man- and a big deal is made of the sexual areas of the body. The woman is capable of conceiving, and she is also given breasts to feed the young who have been given life- keeping in mind, that this life contains the divine spark for the creator. In the holy books, it also mentions children and offspring - LET'S SAY, we are encouraged to have responsible union with our mate and procreate, when desired and responsibly.
Let's take a look at misinterpretation and translation, regarding the procreation process. In some religions, we find mutilations of the self, both emotionally and physically. In some books, it may state, if it offends thee, cut it off- or, cut the bridge, or something similar.
WE need to ask: Why we were given the tools to mate and create life - and how and why new life is, and was given the divine spark of approval.
Being equipped educationally, and with reason, we should be capable of reproducing young and enjoying union with our partner. If someone speaks against this- then it should be acceptable to ask, from where does this person speak, and can they explain exactly from what waters they draw their reason against procreation of life.
Living and associating in, and with religious orders and groups, is not a good enough reason to speak against sexual union- the celibate life is not the same as a spiritual living. Few individuals are capable of true spiritual living and obtaining the highest on their own. The union of the opposites is necessary to achieve the highest mark, for most of us.
Mating and companionship is desired,accepted and approved in the social structure of society. Along with many benefits and comfort of a comforting companion when at times is desired and needed. Instinctual functions are given us for a reason - otherwise we would not them.
The procreational instinct is exactly that- an instinct and will not go away. We were given this instinct by the creator to sensibly use, and it is when we do not use it properly and carefully, problems arise in society, religious orders, and within ourselves.
Hopefully, each of us can draw from spiritual sources, what is right and good for us, and let it not concern us if our neighbor believes differently.
IT could also be said, in some instances, " The light shineth in the darkness- and the darkness comprehendeth not."

Implementing Sex Education

Implementing Sex Education 

So you have volunteered to teach sex education in your school or program … or perhaps you have been “drafted” to do so … or maybe you see an obvious gap in information about this topic and feel compelled to do the right thing? Whatever reason brings you to this place, you are about to undertake an exciting, valuable, necessary, and complex journey.
Many educators feel anxious or tentative in tackling the topics of sex, sexuality, and sexual health. They may feel overwhelmed about where to start or confused about what to teach and when to teach it.
  www.sex education for world.blogspot.com is here to help. As the nation’s oldest and most trusted provider of sexual health care, and with a national network of sexuality educators, we can help you advocate for comprehensive, medically accurate sexuality education in your school or program. We can also help you develop or choose a curriculum and implement it with confidence.
We believes that parents and guardians should be the primary sexuality educators of their children. As with other complex issues, many parents may need support, resources, and expertise from schools and other organizations. It is important that young people receive age-appropriate sexual health information and develop practical skills for keeping healthy. Educators can help families by providing culturally meaningful learning opportunities in safe and nonjudgmental environments so that young people can learn about sexuality in a healthy and positive context.
Highlights

• What Is Medically Accurate Sex Education?
• What Are Abstinence-Only Programs and Why Don’t They Work?
• Why Is Sex Education Necessary?
• Who Supports Sex Education in School?
• How Is Comprehensive, Medically Accurate Sex Education Effectively Implemented?
• How Do I Implement Comprehensive, Medically Accurate Sex Education?
• So Now What?

What Is Medically Accurate Sex Education?

Sometimes, people mistakenly believe that “sex ed” refers only to sexual behavior (e.g., sexual intercourse) and not the full array of topics that comprise sexuality. These include information and concerns about abstinence, body image, contraception, gender, human growth and development, human reproduction, pregnancy, relationships, safer sex (prevention of sexually transmitted infections), sexual attitudes and values, sexual anatomy and physiology, sexual behavior, sexual health, sexual orientation, and sexual pleasure.
Comprehensive, medically accurate sexuality education covers the wide array of topics that affect sexuality and sexual health. It is grounded in evidence-based, peer-reviewed science. Its goal is to promote health and well-being in a way that is developmentally appropriate. It includes information and communication skills building as well as values exploration. Ideally, sex ed in school is an integrated education process that builds upon itself year after year, is initiated in kindergarten, and is provided through grade 12.

What Are Abstinence-Only Programs and Why Don’t They Work?

Abstinence-only programs (also called abstinence-only-until-marriage programs) promote abstinence from sexual behavior. They strictly exclude discussion of other important sex ed topics, especially those concerned with birth control, safer sex, and sexual orientation. In fact, abstinence-only programs often provide inaccurate and alarmist misinformation about the effectiveness of condoms, contraception, and safer sex.
Advocates for Youth is a not-for-profit organization that champions efforts to help young people make informed and responsible decisions about their reproductive and sexual health. It posts helpful online information about the scientific evaluation of abstinence-only programs and how they fail our children.

Why Is Sex Education Necessary?

We are all sexual. Sexuality is an integral part of each person’s identity. Learning about our sexuality and achieving sexual health and well-being are lifelong processes that begin at birth and continue throughout our lives. Although parents and guardians are the primary sexuality educators of their children, children also receive messages about sexuality from many other sources. Some of them may have more negative than positive impact. Schools and other community-based organizations can be important partners with parents to provide young people accurate and developmentally appropriate sexuality education.
The goals of comprehensive sexuality education are to help young people gain a positive view of sexuality and to provide them with developmentally appropriate knowledge and skills so that they can make healthy decisions about their sex lives now and in the future. Medically accurate sexuality education is an investment in our children’s future — their well-being. Our “return on investment” could be a generation of young people who have heard more helpful messages about sexuality than the provocative media images and/or silences they currently witness. It could be a generation of women and men comfortable in their own skin; able to make well-informed, responsible decisions; form healthy relationships; and take care of their bodies.

Who Supports Sex Education in School?

Public opinion polls show that most Americans support sex education. Parents and students want sexuality education to be taught in our schools. National surveys underscore parental support for school-based sexuality education. For example, a 2004 survey conducted by National Public Radio, the Henry Kaiser Family Foundation, and the Kennedy School of Government documented that more than 90 percent of parents support sexuality education in our schools. The study also showed that the vast majority (93 percent) of parents found that the sex education programs in their children’s school were either very helpful or somewhat helpful to their child in dealing with sexual issues.

How Is Comprehensive, Medically Accurate Sex Education Effectively Implemented?

Comprehensive, medically accurate sexuality education is a systematic and layered education process that supports youth and their families and helps them acquire the sexuality-related information, skills, and motivation necessary to act in ways that are congruent with their values. While parents and guardians are their children’s primary sexuality educators, the majority of them feel that they need support and/or professional expertise to lead the way. Schools, as well as faith groups and community-based organizations, all have a role to play. In fact, the nature of our education system in America puts schools in the ideal position to take the lead in this process.
Ideally, medically accurate sexuality education would be taught each year in our schools from pre-kindergarten through 12th grade. Like all school subjects, the information and skills that are taught are age-appropriate, reflect best-practice, and build on the previous year’s learning. According to Dr. Douglas Kirby, a senior research scientist for ETR Associates in Scotts Valley, CA, and a nonpartisan expert on the effectiveness of school and community programs in the reduction of adolescent sexual risk-taking behaviors, (Public Health Reports, 190 (1997), 339-360) effective sexuality education

• uses behavioral goals, teaching methods, and resources that are age-appropriate, developmentally appropriate, and culturally competent
• is based on theoretical approaches that have been proven to be effective
• takes place over sufficient time to cover necessary topics and skills
• employs a variety of teaching methodologies that present the content in ways that make it relevant to the student
• provides basic, accurate information about the risks of unprotected sexual intercourse and how to avoid unprotected sexual intercourse
• includes activities that address peer pressure and cultural pressure
• practices decision making, communication, negotiation, and refusal skills
• utilizes teachers who are well-trained, comfortable, and believe in the program

With this in mind, educators may need guidance in how to select the goals, the information, the activities, and the methodologies to effectively teach about sex and sexuality. There are many highly regarded curricula, teaching tools, and professional development opportunities that teachers may find helpful. As with all resources, educators are urged to preview the material for the appropriateness of the content for their particular needs and the standards of their communities.

How Do I Implement Comprehensive, Medically Accurate Sex Education?

It can be normal to feel overwhelmed by the task of developing and implementing comprehensive sex education in your school or program. Some educators find it helpful to talk with other professionals — mentors and/or supervisors — who have already implemented comprehensive sex education. It is important to get support from your school or organization. 

• Assess your own attitudes, values and beliefs.
• Involve parents, school faculty, administration and staff, community leaders, and student leaders early in the process. You can benefit from their collective wisdom, help assure the development of culturally appropriate content, and garner wide-spread support.
• Increase your comfort level with the topics.
• Research what is already being done on this topic by your school, organization, or community. Identify the greatest gaps and needs in the students’ knowledge and skills.
• Brush up on content and seek out appropriate professional development opportunities.
• Partner with other teachers and youth-serving professionals to help ensure effectiveness and to add depth and breadth to your sexuality education program.
• Research and select an established, evaluated sexuality education curriculum or develop a curriculum of your own. Use your state department of education, school board policies, and the Sexuality Information and Education Council of the U.S. as places to start.
• Double-check that the content of your lessons balances the need to impart information, to develop skills, and to inspire motivation.
• Review various teaching methodologies and incorporate them into each lesson plan.
• Once you have developed or selected a curriculum, send out a communication to parents/guardians (and other stakeholders) and offer them opportunities to familiarize themselves with the content.
• Carve out adequate time to implement the lessons.
• Develop a strategy for creating a safe learning environment.
• Develop and practice a protocol for answering difficult questions.
• Develop and implement an evaluation plan for your program.
• Develop and implement a plan to get feedback from all stakeholders.

So Now What?

While this may feel like a huge undertaking, break it down into discrete steps such as

• Assess the needs.
• Research solutions.
• Garner support.
• Develop a plan.
• Develop or select a curriculum.
• Create lesson plans.
• Gather resources.
• Have fun!

It may help to keep in mind that you may be the only adult who will ever talk to a young person about sexuality in an honest, accurate, and nonjudgmental way. Your good intentions, your positive, healthy attitude, your nonjudgmental tone, and the information you offer may be more than appreciated — it may save a young person’s life. 
Armed with knowledge about comprehensive, medically accurate sexuality education, you now need to jump in!  Talk with a mentor or colleague, browse your local library, or surf online to become acquainted with the breadth and scope of resources available. 
Contact www.Sex education for world.blogspot.com near you to talk with and learn more about this important topic. Many Sex Education affiliates provide consultation and training to assist with implementing sexuality education programs.

Difinition of sex education

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Definition of sex education

1. Education about human sexual anatomy, reproduction, and intercourse and other human sexual behavior.